Our heartfelt gratitude to eighty people who filled Uki Hall with love, gratitude, singing and tears on 30th September 2018.

John, Wendy and Liam were enormously blessed by the powerfully heart-opening experience of Bless this Road.

We’ll have finished the workshop report, as well as compiling the photos … and here is the link to a video of the day. Just click on the image below:

Thank you all so much for bringing your love and caring to our healing day!

To read more about my healing journey as I move back into my life from a life in grief, please see my blog:

https://staycloseblog.net

Blessings,

Wendy Sarkissian

12 FEBRUARY 2020

Kyogle Road Repaired, 13 September 2018

Photo: Sarah Birkett, Uki

BLESS THIS ROAD,

SUNDAY 30 SEPTEMBER 2018, UKI, NSW

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Why do we gather?

We gather to solve problems we can’t solve on our own. We gather to celebrate, to mourn, and to mark transitions. We gather to make decisions. We gather because we need one another. We gather to show strength. We gather to honor and acknowledge. We gather to build companies and schools and neighborhoods. We gather to welcome, and we gather to say goodbye.

Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering, 2018.

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Welcome! We have created this blog for the friends, family, carers, and communities of Matilda and Cecilia Bevelander and Karl Langheinrich, who lost their lives on the Kyogle Road near Uki in 2015 and 2016. In their honour, and to celebrate the opening of the repaired Kyogle Road, we are holding a day of community education, healing, and gratitude on 30 September 2018 in the Uki Hall.

Our plan for this day is that it can combine very different elements, private and public, sadness and joy, painful memory, as well as expressions of heartfelt celebration and gratitude. To do that, we will try to set aside some times and spaces, some moments for tears and some moments later in the day for gaiety.

We want everyone to feel welcome, comfortable and accepted in our space of healing and appreciation.

John Bevelander, his son Liam Bevelander, and Wendy Sarkissian joined together with many friends and supporters to bring to life a new form of community building and empowerment.

Road Safety Workshop (9:30 to 12:15)

We begin with a two-hour Road Safety Workshop, which will be factual, informative and hard-hitting. We will learn what best practice road safety looks like and feels like from highly qualified specialists, as well as sharing fine-grain, essential local knowledge and wisdom. We will prepare a communique to be delivered to the Minister, the local Member, the NSW Coroner, the Department of Roads and Martimime Services (RMS), Tweed Shire Council, road safety officials and experts and others in the field of road safety. The results will be published in the December 2018 edition of a prominent international road safety journal.

Matilda’s Rainbow Lunch (12:15)

Then the energy will change dramatically, as we move into Matilda’s Rainbow Lunch, honouring Matilda Bevelander, who was only 16 when she died (as it turns out, on Wendy’s birthday). At this time,  we will greet other guests and enjoy an informal bring-a-plate lunch where everyone can mingle. Matilda’s Rainbow Lunch will culminate in the symbolic naming of this rebuilt stretch of Kyogle Road as “The Matilda Way”. Tweed Shire Mayor, Councillor Katie Milne, will ceremonially cut the ribbon to “declare open” The Matilda Way.

And we vow to call this stretch of roadThe Matilda Way from this moment on.

Appreciations (12:50 to 2:30)

Part 3 of our day of celebration will offer Wendy and John and his son, Liam, survivors who lost our beloved family members, an opportunity to give thanks to a wide range of people (over 25 and counting) who helped us deal with the harsh reality of losing our loved ones and the task of rebuilding our lives.

We will especially celebrate the caring ethics of the local police and paramedics, as well as the Tweed Shire Council for rebuilding the road. Many others will receive our appreciation. A cleansing, blessings, activist songs and some communal singing will round off a day of healing and celebration… before we repair to the Mt Warning Hotel to raise our glasses to the sweet memory of our beloved Cecilia, Matilda and Karl.

TO READ THE LATEST NEWS FROM TWEED SHIRE COUNCIL, PLEASE GO TO:

blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/27/road-to-uki-now-safer/

HERE IS THE FULL PROGRAM FOR THE BLESS THIS ROAD DAY:

Bless this Road Draft Program for the Day_FINAL

LIST OF 26 BLOG POSTS

1 SAFE ROADS WORKSHOP PROGRAM 9:30-12:15 https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/08/bless-this-road-workshop-program/
2 LUKE VASSELLA https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/24/luke-vassella-our-singer-for-the-day/
3 OPEN LETTER TO THE NIMBIN COMMUNITY: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/24/open-letter-to-the-nimbin-community/
4 WHAT TO WEAR ON THE DAY https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/23/what-to-wear-on-the-day/
5 FOR A NEW BEGINNING: JOHN O’DONOHUE
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/23/for-a-new-beginning-the-final-blessing-for-our-healing-event/
6 OUR ARTICLES ABOUT ROAD SAFETY https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/22/our-articles-about-road-safety/
7 MY RE-ENTRY INTO ACTIVISM: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/21/my-re-entry-into-activism/
8 SPIRITUAL ALCHEMY AND SACRED ACTIVISM https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/20/spiritual-alchemy-and-sacred-activism/
9 BLESSING THE TWEED RIVER: BY WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/19/blessing-the-beautiful-tweed-river/
10 IMAGINING KARL’S ACTIVIST VOICE https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/18/imagining-karls-activist-voice/
11 A SMALL MUNICIPALITY: ROAD SAFETY FUNDING CONSTRAINTS
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/17/is-road-safety-only-about-funding-constraints-and-financial-demands-on-a-small-municipality/
12 CONVENTIONAL VS. SAFE SYSTEMS https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/16/conventional-vs-safe-systems-approaches-to-road-safety/
13 FIVE TOPICS TO BE ADDRESSED AT THE ROAD SAFETY WORKSHOP https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/16/five-topics-to-be-addressed-in-the-bless-this-road-road-safety-workshop/
14 RSVP https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/16/rsvp/
15 WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO SURVIVE A FATAL CAR CRASH: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/15/what-it-feels-like-to-survive-a-fatal-car-crash/
16 DISCUSSIONS WITH PROF. JOHN WHITELEGG https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/discussions-with-professor-john-whitelegg/
17 OPEN LETTER TO THE CORONER: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/an-open-letter-to-the-nsw-coroner/
18 WORLD DAY OF REMEMBRANCE FOR ROAD TRAFFIC VICTIMS https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/world-day-of-remembrance-for-road-traffic-victims-november-2016/
19 THE SACRED WORK OF SORROW: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/road-safety-engagement-the-sacred-work-of-sorrow/
20 EXAMPLES OF SURVIVOR MISSIONS https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/examples-of-survivor-missions-in-road-safety-activism/
21 DELIVERING MY VICTIM IMPACT STATEMENT: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/14/delivering-my-victim-impact-statement-september-2016/
22 CRASH STATISTICS FOR NSW https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/12/crash-statistics-for-nsw/
23 BLESS THIS ROAD  A BEAUTIFUL SONG BY MARY BLACK https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/06/bless-this-road-mary-black-a-beautiful-song-by-mary-black/
24 WELCOME TO BLESS THIS ROAD https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/05/welcome-to-bless-this-road/
25 ROAD TO UKI NOW SAFER: a report from Tweed Shire, 27 August 2018
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/27/road-to-uki-now-safer/
26 I HAVE MORE TO SAY TO THE NSW CORONER: WENDY SARKISSIAN
https://blessthisroad.blog/2018/08/29/i-have-more-to-say-to-the-nsw-coroner/